Some People Are Never Happy

Or they are simply happy being unhappy. Either way it is hard to be around these people. I know that at times I can be a Negative Nancy. I know that it is incredibly hard to pull your self up by your boot straps and keep going, but it still must be done.
There is a woman that I work with that is going through some hard times right now. Her kid is driving her crazy, she’s always worried about money, and lets face it…she doesn’t exactly love coming into work. That being said, being shrouded in her negativity has done something profound to me. It’s made me a more positive person.
I now see that I have a powerful tool to make myself happy and that tool is me. (I’m not a tool I’m just saying metaphorically…oh never mind…) Regardless. I need to be my own champion. I need to put myself out there. I need to see the good and the light and not the dark and gloomy.
I believe that people are put in our paths in life to teach us a lesson or help us through a difficult time. I believe this person was put in my path to give me the kick in the butt that I need to realize my dreams. I need to start working on me and what truly makes me happy. So thank you Disgruntled Co-Worker for being so miserable these last few weeks. You gave me the boost I needed. I hope I can do the same for you sometime soon.
What makes you happiest? and are you doing enough to make it happen? Get out there and live it. You never know what could be waiting around the next corner.


October 25, 2010. Tags: . Advice, blog, Blogger, books, Bored, career, change, Doubt, revelation, sadness, Stressed, Uncategorized, unhappy, wishes, Woman, work, writing. 1 comment.

And When I Grow Up…

…I’ll be a billionaire! Or maybe not. Remember when you were a little boy or girl and you used to fantasize about your life as a grown up? Do you remember spending all day on your Grandma’s tire swing pretending you were a famous singer? Well maybe that was just me…but nevertheless I’m sure you remember wanting big magical things for yourself.
I still want big magical things for myself.
Now I just have to figure out where that mysterious life path is and follow it. I feel like Little Red Ridding Hood without a flashlight or a compass and instead of the Big Bad Wolf on my heals its self doubt and monthly bills.
I’m a bit lost, a little scared, and a lot poor. I am apparently your typical American. Go figure.
So this is an open question to those of you who have found the dream, who are happy and content in the career/life that you’ve chosen. How did you know? What did you do? How did you figure out the age-old question of “what do I want to be when I grow up”? I’m serious. I want to know. I thought I knew, maybe I still do, maybe I’m just impatient? I’m thinking I need to just close my eyes and pick the name out of a hat and go with it. Career by Ouija Board…

October 21, 2010. Tags: , , , . admiration, Advice, blog, Blogger, Bored, career, change, Doubt, Imperfect, revelation, satisfaction, Stressed, tired, Uncategorized, unhappy, wishes, Woman, work, writing. 1 comment.

When Is It Too Much?

So I’ve started packing for my vacation. Can you tell I’m excited? Anyway. This is the longest trip I’ve ever been on. I’ll be gone for ten days. Needless to say I’m afraid I’m not packing enough. When do you know when you have the right amount of clothes… toiletries… ear plugs (someone snores…) shoes… socks… underoos? When is it too much? I’m pulling my hair out trying to figure out exactly what I’m missing. I feel like I’m forgetting something very important…I have my passport…I have my camera…I have my matching PJ set with cute snowflake designs…what is it?! Oh well, I think I’ll keep adding things until I’ve met the airlines weight limit…I can always go shopping…

September 28, 2010. Tags: , , , . blog, Doubt, socks, Stressed, Uncategorized. 1 comment.

Acts of Kindness and Happy Thoughts

Recently I accepted an event invitation via Facebook for “Positive Status Day.” This got me thinking. How many status updates are filled with negativity? Festering anger that has been unleashed into the biggest social network in the world. (I think…don’t quote me on that one…) So why do we constantly hang our dirty laundry to dry via Facebook? Do you really think the guy who sat next to you in freshman math cares that you ran over a squirrel? Is it so imperative to tell your friend’s friend’s cousin that you didn’t get that promotion?
I’m the first one to admit that I’m 100% guilty of this. I’ve hung my half-baked rants out for everyone to see. I’ve left vague often annoying messages saying things like, “I wish this didn’t happen” out into the world of concerned nosiness where people inevitably ask, “Who? What’s wrong?”
The truth is, I’m sick of the drama. The asinine comments that make me take notice and worry, when in reality, without Facebook I would probably have no knowledge of your life at all. So, I urge you all to think of something positive today. If you find yourself having a hard time and picking at yourself or others think, “What can I say that is positive about this situation?” For instance, I’m having a bad hair day. I’m talking not good, looks frizzy and odd, however, when I looked in the mirror this morning I told myself, “Your skin looks nice today.” I needed to see the good through the bad. I think sometimes people really do need that. Especially that person sitting next to you in her cubicle typing a bit to hard and muttering to herself. Maybe she just needs to be reminded that its Friday or that she did a good job this week despite everything. If words fail you, a cookie left at their desk inevitably does it. So happy Friday and to all the people who are reading this: You are beautiful, smart, and wonderful. Have a wonderful weekend and remember, you are amazing. And I’m sure I’m not the only one who thinks so!

July 9, 2010. Advice, blog, change, cookies, Doubt, friends, Love, relationship, revelation, rude, sadness, satisfaction, Stressed, Uncategorized, unhappy, wishes. 3 comments.

The Mirror of Distaste

The things we dislike the most in others is often the things we dislike the most about ourselves. For instance, I always complain about people being too negative. Yet my first thoughts in a new unfamiliar situation is that of defeat and dismay. Why do I get so irritated with people that are negative and pissy? Because that’s how I’m feeling sometimes even though I don’t let it show all the time. I’m resentful. I’m irritated that they can’t just keep it together and keep it inside like I do. So today, I am more accepting and patient for all of the little things and people that drive me bonkers.

What are the little things that drive you nuts about other? Do you do this? Be honest with yourself…

Now sometimes there are things that people do that piss me off that I know I don’t do. I can’t abide rude people. I am polite and cordial all often as possible. sometimes I snap and tell people exactly what I think, but more often than not it actually hurts me more than them. I become irritated with myself and I end up feeling bad and apologizing because no matter what I think I shouldn’t be rude to someone else. I don’t know whats going on in their life.

So sometimes people are just stupid, but sometimes I’m taking out my frustration on others for the Imperfections I see in myself, and trust me…there are many. But I expect better of myself. So I’ll work on it. What are discovering about yourself today?

April 22, 2010. Advice, blog, career, email, Imperfect, revelation, rude, satisfaction, Stressed, Uncategorized, unhappy, wishes, Woman, work. 2 comments.